BY SOFO ARCHON
To live means to learn, and those who are more open to learning are the ones who manage to live better.
There are some invaluable lessons that have the power to help us grow into more conscious, intelligent, compassionate beings, allowing us to live a life of beauty, in celebration and joy, at peace with ourselves and others.
Here I would like to share six powerful lessons that I have learned in my journey which completely changed my life, and might change yours too, if you give them the attention they deserve.
1. Freedom goes hand in hand with responsibility
Most people cry out that they want freedom, but few actually desire to be free. That’s because to be free means to be in constant awareness of your actions and accept full responsibility for their consequences. Out of the fear of making mistakes, the majority of people avoid having the freedom of thinking and acting — they choose to let others be the masters of their lives, and place responsibility solely on them — as a result, their whole lives depend on others. Responsibility can be a big burden and only those who have a strong will and are courageous enough are able to endure it.
2. Non-conformity is a good thing
From a very young age, we’ve been taught to not think for ourselves, but to believe in what others tell us and blindly follow their orders. Hence most people didn’t develop their critical thinking and have suppressed themselves in all sorts of ways, resulting in tremendous suffering in their psyche. If you want to grow and evolve as a conscious human being, and relieve yourself from all the unnecessary burden that is pulling your soul down, you need to walk the path of non-conformity. You need to stop blindly follow rules, break free from the shackles of tradition, start thinking for yourself and reach your own conclusions out of your own experiences. Of course, this path might be arduous, lonely and painful, but it’s the only path to true inner transformation.
3. Everybody has a story
Every single person has a unique background and we should never be quick to judge people before we truly get to understand where they are coming from. It’s easy to judge people from appearance alone, but that judgement can only be superficial. In order to deeply understand others, you need to treat them with kindness and compassion, and never forget to take into account the multiple environmental forces that help form their way of living.
4. Failures are to be embraced
Most people think that making mistakes only leads to failure, and that we should avoid failure at all costs. In fact, those who fail are usually looked down upon by others as being failures themselves. One of the most powerful lessons I have learned in life is that making mistakes and undergoing failure is actually what helps us grow into the best version of ourselves, allowing us to learn how to open our wings of consciousness and overcome any obstacles we find on our way. Mistakes help us become wiser, by showing us the harmful paths that we need to avoid and helping us choose better ones that may lead us to a more beautiful, happy life. Never be afraid of committing mistakes, but make sure to not repeat them.
5. Small acts of kindness can make a big impact
In the competitive world that we live, we’ve been used to being unkind and rude to others, behaving in ways that negatively affect those around us, and most of the times we don’t even realize the consequences that our actions have on the world. The result is that our relationships with people are far from healthy. We can’t be at peace with others, feeling that we’re living in an inimical world that is posing continuous threat on our being. In order to change that, we need to start acting more from the heart — that is, acting with kindness and compassion, in order to create a peaceful environment that will allow us and our fellow human beings to experience a more beautiful life. Most people think that a person’s small acts of kindness are not enough to make a positive change, but in reality they can be powerful beyond our imagination, creating a chain of causes and effects that can transform the entire world.
6. Success is not measured by money
From a very young age, most people have learned to associate money with success. Our parents, teachers and the society in general want us to believe that money is all that we should desire in life — everything else is secondary. This way we have always learned to live in such a way that prevents us from finding true joy and happiness — we compete with those around us, we do work that we hate doing, and we are always stressed and worried about the future — hence we can’t appreciate and savor what we already have in the here and now. Although money is necessary for our survival in our current unjust and irrational economic system, it cannot bring us the happiness and peace we are all deep down searching for.
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