BY SOFO ARCHON
Every single person deep down desires to live a life of joy and happiness.
However, most of us can’t achieve that, and that’s mainly because of the social conditioning that we had to undergo during our childhood. The society has brainwashed us into believing lies that prevent us from living in joy and which are the main causes of our psychological suffering.
Below are 5 such lies that most people believe in and are blinded by:
1. Money will bring me happiness
In the economic system that we have, we need to earn money in order to get our food and a shelter to live under. However, in the materialistic society that we’ve been brought up, we believe that money can buy us happiness, so money has become our primary goal in life. People are in a constant search for acquiring more money, spending their entire life trying their best to earn as much as possible, neglecting other important aspects of life that can truly bring them happiness, such as pursuing their passions, building intimate, loving relationships with friends and feeling connected to the natural world. Thus they end up feeling disappointed, sad and empty.
2. Beings busy makes me look important
We tend to think that being busy means doing something important and hence being important. Society has conditioned us to believe that to take time for ourselves, to do something creative, or to just relax doing nothing means that we are lazy and hence unimportant. So most of us are trapped into an endless effort of doing things so as to feel good about ourselves, but this results only in experiencing a constant state of stress and feeling burned out.
3. Having fun is a waste of time
As children we all enjoyed having fun doing things that filled our lives with joy. We were playful, and whenever our playfulness was suppressed, we were feeling extremely sad. Slowly slowly, the way most of us were brought up has made us believe that fun and play is a waste of time, and that we should be serious, wearing a long face and be interested only in doing things that we hate doing. So most people keep on working all day long, being entirely focused on things they don’t enjoy, and they don’t choose to spend even an hour or two every day doing what their heart is truly beating for. Not surprisingly, they end up being miserable and filled with regrets.
4. Life is a competition
We are living in an immensely competitive society, and from a very young age we’ve been taught that life is a competition and that we should do our best to win over others for our personal gain. Competition, however, leads to conflict and the war mentality that prevails globally. And when there is conflict people can’t be at peace with one another — instead, they feel lonely and alienated, afraid to trust their fellow human beings and form intimate relationships with them. But since we are all social beings, and love and friendship are deep psychological needs that we all desire to fulfill, whether consciously or unconsciously, we cannot live happily unless we learn to live in harmony with those around us.
5. I am a victim to my destiny
Another lie that prevents people from living in joy is the belief that they are victims of their destiny. It is the belief that you cannot do anything on your part to change the circumstances you find yourself in. Thus, instead of trying to improve your negative life circumstances and grow into the better version of yourself, you turn into a passive, helpless person who doesn’t have the power to make a change in this world. This belief only results in people experiencing tremendous suffering and anguish that makes life seem like a constant torture.
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