BY SOFO ARCHON
Life is like school, in the sense that we are continuously learning from our experiences, and this allows as to evolve as beings. And the more open we are to life, the more we can learn from it.
There are some lessons that we learn during the course of our lives which are tremendously important, because they teach us how to live a life of fulfillment and contentment. Here are five such lessons that life has taught me:
1. The way you react forms the way you live
You can’t control much how others think or behave, just as you cannot control much the situations you are in. But you can always control how people and situations affect your life, by the way you react to them. Have you ever wondered why very same thing might occur to different people and each one of them is affected by it in a different way? By changing the way you react to people and situations, you can enormously improve the quality of your life.
2. Your beliefs shape your reality
One of the most important lessons in life is that our beliefs shape our reality. Beliefs are just like glasses: wear red glasses and the world becomes red, wear blue glasses and the world automatically turns into blue. Much of what we experience within us and around us depends on our worldview, which in turn is formed by our beliefs. The world is like a mirror, and you see yourself reflected in it. So if you want to see a different world, don’t try to change the mirror, but yourself.
3. You are unique, not perfect
Everyone is unique, without exception. No one, however, is without flaws. Therefore we should stop striving to be perfect, and accept ourselves for who we are. I am not saying that you should not try to find ways to create a more beautiful, fulfilling life. What I am saying is that, sometimes in our efforts to become perfect, the beauty and fulfillment that we are searching for is being pushed further away.
4. Happiness is not for sale
In the consumption-driven world that we live, we believe that happiness is to be found in material things, hence we buy more and more things without end, and the more of them we buy, the more unsatisfied and unfulfilled we feel, simply because happiness cannot be bought or found in material objects. If you are seeking for the good life, the best way to achieve it is by letting go of your attachments to material things and focusing more on how you relate to yourself, the people close to you, and your wider environment. Happiness is found in simple things, such as doing what you love, spending time in nature, and building real, intimate friendships with like-minded individuals.
5. Change yourself first, not the world
Most people try to change the world, not realizing that the world is simply comprised of individuals, and that they themselves are part of it. Everybody is trying to change the world, but who is trying to change himself or herself? Before you start pointing fingers to others, first take a look within, and before you try to change the world, embody the change that you wish to see in the world.
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